I mean, seriously, if your argument is that cis people know lots about trans people is because cis doctors and therapists are who we go through, then you are super ignorant about trans issues.
Unless the doctor is experienced in trans medical work, they typically have to be educated about what trans people need. I hear stories about trans women having to do their own research about the hormones they need, print out their findings and having to present it to their doctors all the fucking time. Whether the clinic is informed consent or demands letters is irrelevant. If the doctor has no experience with trans people, they stereotypically have no idea what to do (especially with trans women).
And, therapists? Because they’re unknowledgeable about being trans, they will find symptoms similar to the conditions that they know well. So, basically, trans people will end up with various diagnoses and various anti-depressants before being approved for transition, which would have solved all previous issues for lots of people. Even therapists that do understand trans people do this too, because then they force you to come back to numerous sessions, further charging you more money and draining your checkbook dry. Most trans women are poor as fuck and this shit-tacular method of greed is a common way that some trans people never get to start transition.
And, the random cis person on the street? They don’t know shit about being trans. Don’t begin to even try to argue that cis people know more about being trans than trans people, because that proves you don’t know shit about being trans.
I Don’t Understand Young People And They Scare Me: I Just Want To Live In The Past Forever
nobody even fucking dare try to explain this to me
best part of 2013
worst part of 2013
watchoutsally replied to your post “shame is labor we trans women are expected to provide”hey this is rlly good and important could we talk about this a little? like i’m having a little trouble totally making sense of it
thanks, and definitely.
content warning: transmisogyny, death, and implications of suicide (please let me know via pm if there are others you feel should be added - my apologies if i made any oversights.)
my line of thought is that shame is a tactical force induced in trans women by patriarchy. (and here i’m gonna try to express what i’ve learned from the analyses of silvia federici, b8, unobject and others.) under patriarchal systems of gendered labor, the category of “woman” is a demarcation of those who are to, without choice or compensation, reproduce labor - i.e. give birth to new workers, provide emotional support to men, etc. - all as a means of maintaining patriarchy. now, for us trans women - particularly trans lesbians - we tend to occupy a nil space in this structure, since we don’t actually fit the space patriarchy assigned us. moreover, our subjectivities actively stand against the foundations of this system. so, if we stand in opposition to a central element of patriarchy, it will (and obviously has) find means of eliminating or at least controlling us in ways that destroy our subjectivities and reestablish those of men. shame is a means of doing this. we are expected to reproduce, within ourselves, the shame we are supposedly defined by.
looking at this in relation to compulsory heterosexuality reveals quite a lot regarding this deployment of shame we’re subject to… while we cannot satisfy the reproductive facets of “womanhood” defined by gendered labor and compulsory heterosexuality, we can still satisfy the emotional and sexual facets. and shame is a means of men holding power over us in these situations. how many trans women do you think stay in relationships with men because they think they could never find another partner? how many think that being sexual with men is the only semblance of validated womanhood they can achieve? how many think that being sexual with women and other non-men makes them not women? or predatory? shame is strategically induced in us in all these situations, and it is then expected that we maintain that shame - our tenuous relation to patriarchy’s desires.
one situation i was thinking about in particular, and i really want to address because i think it has vast implications, is this: how often do we see men getting off on the thought of being “debased” by having sex with a trans woman? we, in this case, would not only be in the position of reproducing our own shame - a constant demand - we must also extend some relational aspect of it to men - thereby delineating the extent to which they hold power over us and reasserting their subjectivity. (“I can feel ashamed when I say so.”) It is through applications like this that shame is deployed with the clear intent of destroying us. and if the shame builds up enough, we’ll either have no means of fighting or we’ll just be annihilated.
so, that’s mostly what i was thinking in writing that. i haven’t given it a too much thought beyond this, it kind of just dawned on me yesterday. there may be gaps or problems in what i’m offering here - and i’d definitely appreciate hearing from people who see those. hopefully i got at what you were asking and i’d definitely be happy to keep the conversation going if you want to talk about this more. (might be some time though since i’m going to be really busy most of the weekend, but i’ll try to keep an eye out for anything!)
shame is labor we trans women are expected to provide
Do you ever think about what genderbent you would look like
I don’t have to think about it. I have 24 years of pictures.
Apparently RadfemUK conference changed their name in order to book Slimelight (a goth club in London, which has a very large trans women membership) as a venue for this years conference, when Slimelight found out about it and that they were planing on having both Raymond and Bindel as speakers they canceled it, and now Radfem/Femifest are threating legal action against the club.
But yeah, TWEFs respect trans women’s spaces, and only wish we’d return the favour.